3 Ideas for Freethinkers

Here are 3 ideas that I am pondering this week.

I.

We have the wrong idea about prioritizing.

For example, someone will say, "I need to make time for working out."

The question is not what activities you will "make time" for. We all get the same 24 hours.

The question is what other activities you will not do instead.

Are you okay with not seeing your friends as often? Are you alright with putting less time in at work and not getting promoted, so you can have that six-pack?

"What sacrifices am I willing to make to get X?" That's what we should be asking ourselves.

II.

I talk to a lot of people who hate their 9-to-5 jobs.

My advice is always the same — pick an activity you love and build a business around it.

But to do so, you must downgrade your current lifestyle.

Move to a cheaper apartment. Sell your car, use the bus. Stop going out on the weekends.

Now get a part-time job, so you can work fewer hours.

As soon as you get off work, go monk mode. Invest every free minute in the development of your business. Do this for 3–5 years, and you will see success (sometimes faster).

It is not a matter of, "Will it work?" It works every time.

It is a matter of enduring our consumerist reflex — "Oh, I cannot buy as much stuff as I used to, so I must be a failure."

If you can manage that, freedom is only a few short years away.

III.

I had a friend from the US visiting me recently and she got me thinking about the sexual games we play in heterosexual relationships. It seems to me there are three types:

The early game (approx. 15–30 years): Here, we are most concerned with sexual attraction. The limiting factor is usually the woman. She decides if it happens or not.

The mid-game (approx. 31–45 years): Now the game becomes about starting a family. The limiting factor is usually the man. He must decide if he is on board or not.

The late game (approx. 45 years to end of life): The final stage is about emotional companionship. The decision to be companions is usually mutual.

I suspect that the final stage might be the most fulfilling one when nobody has leverage over the other person anymore.

Did you like these ideas? Did they rub you the wrong way? Let me know! I love hearing from subscribers and reply to every message.

Until next week,

Niels